Glendora residents Tony and Nedra Miller met as teenagers in a grocery store. He was a box boy, she worked at the snack bar.
As the cooking-challenged Nedra tried to pour whipped cream, it shot up all over the place. Tony mopped up her mess, and two years later, the two got married.
And on Jan. 27, 2012, Tony and Nedra, both 68, celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary—in Disneyland of all places.
“We had a wonderful time,” said Tony. “We had a lot of fun!’
While the Millers have 50 years of marriage under their belts, the two say they feel as though it was just yesterday they were the young 18-year-old couple at the altar of St. Luke’s Catholic Church in Temple City.
The newlyweds moved to Glendora when they were just 19. They purchased their first home for under $15,000 and raised three sons. Through the years, the couple says they both kept young at heart, keeping busy while always making time to have fun and laugh.
“Sure we have our ups and downs just like all the other couples out there,” said Tony, who has worked for for the past 21 years. “But despite what happens, we don’t close the door and say we’re going to get a divorce.”
“When I made my vows, I knew it was forever,” said Nedra, who has worked with Community Companion Animal Hospital for almost 24 years. “I was making a decision for a lifetime.”
So what tips can the Millers offer after 50 years of marriage? The Millers give seven lessons they learned through their marriage.
- Work as a team – “We both kept busy and active in the raising of the kids,” said Tony. Sharing responsibilities of marriage is key, said Tony.
- Keeping active – According to studies, keeping the mind and body healthy, fosters a good attitude and healthy relationships.
- Share the same values – The Millers, both active parishioners at say church has been an important part of their lives.
- Sense of humor – “You have to see the fun in things,” said Nedra.
- Find things you enjoy doing together – The Millers say they have always enjoyed each other’s company and regularly enjoy date nights.
- Enjoy alone time – As much as they enjoy each other’s company, they also take time for themselves. Nedra enjoys gardening, while she lets Tony take care of the cooking.
- Don’t dwell on anger – “We’re not the kind of people who go on yelling fits,” said Tony. “We clam up and move on.”
After 50 years, the couple is eagerly looking forward to the coming years of their marriage. The couple plans on retiring in about a year and a half to be able to spend more time at their Florida condo and travel the country.
Above their fireplace mantle is a sign Nedra gave Tony as a wedding anniversary gift: “The first 50 years of marriage are always the hardest.”